In a few weeks I will be presenting a workshop on The Magic of Essence Declaring. It is a 2-hour introductory workshop to the Essence vs. Form ™ full coursework by Laura Lavigne that I recently became a Certified Essence Coach in.
So then, what is “Essence”?
Although we do go into the specific description of Essence in our Essence vs. Form ™ workshop offerings, an Essence is similar to a “motivation,” a description that is sometimes used in Enneagram studies. (The Enneagram is another one of my loves, and the two tools partner wonderfully together!)
When my mentor Laura teaches Essence vs. Form ™, one of the processes we do is a visualization meditation that encourages us to think about specific times in our lives when everything was available to us and things were “just right.” During that visualization, we are able to begin to find the words that relate to the Essences we are experiencing and then we begin to audition them to see if they ring true in our core.
One thing is clear to me between both my study of the Enneagram and in working with Laura Lavigne’s Essence vs Form ™ tools, we especially thrive when we know and honor our motivations and Essences!
I personally have determined that five of my Core Essences are Stability, Independence/Freedom, Depth, Creativity, and Curiosity.
When I began the Essence vs. Form ™ coursework, I was initially confused by what I determined were my Core Essences because I felt like Stability and Independence were in conflict with each other. I did know I have a deep desire to have a “home,” but I also know I would feel caged if I didn’t have the opportunity to go on adventures and explore freely.
Interestingly enough, Independence/Freedom, Depth, Creativity, and Curiosity are not only my Core Essences but they are also traits similarly found in the description of Fours in the Enneagram. So I am pretty clear that those traits are part of who I am deep inside, part of what makes me most authentic.
Which gets me to what my post is about today: AUTHENTICITY.
What does the word authenticity mean to you? Synonyms for authenticity are genuine, real, bona fide, true, and valid.
I’m not speaking just about speaking your mind when you are connecting and being as real as you can be with other people.(Maybe you’ve had an interaction with someone in the past where you have felt that they were not being "real" with you and they presented with a phony, fake, insecure, or pretentious vibe?)
I’m talking about the type of authenticity where you are being honest with yourself, more accepting of yourself, and in alignment with your own inner truths.
We’ve been taught to present a certain way in the world, affected by what are considered social norms. We oftentimes, too, get stuck with certain labels and they unconsciously become part of our personality: “She’s an overachiever and perfectionist.” “I’m an introvert.” “He’s just sensitive.” If you hear those statements enough, you may lose sight, and in a sense begin to quiet or even betray, one of your Core Essences because you begin to believe something different than what is your authentic true nature.
When we are authentic with ourselves, we honor our inborn gifts and traits. We become more intuitive, open-hearted, and accepting of our perceived flaws.
With that being said, authenticity doesn’t mean we stop growing or changing, we simply choose to love ourselves even more while we enjoy the journey to deeper self-understanding.
With authenticity, we are able to find more joy, clarity, and personal power.
If you were able to name just one of your soul motivations or Essences, what would it be? I’d love to have you post it in a comment and how you discovered it.
Essentially yours ~
Michele Duncan King